What Not To Talk About On Your First Date

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Not sure of what not to talk about on your first date? Are you a chatter box or are you completely the opposite?
How much conversation is too much compared to how much conversation is not enough?

Here’s the scenario:
It’s your first date. You’re both nervous.
Ladies, if you’re dressed to kill, thoughts of physical attraction may distract him and may make him stumble on his words or become clumsy.
Men, if she’s nervous, she’ll probably talk a lot or she’ll be totally the opposite and be as quiet as a mouse.

There are some simple guidelines to follow. It’s not all that difficult.

Men: try not to… keep your eyes from wandering. I know, I know, she looks hot and she dones some awesome attributes. Try to remain focused.
If you want the date to be successful, here’s what not to talk about on your first date:

1) Your ex. If you have however lost a wife, that’s OK. Just don’t compare her to a lost loved one. Don’t dwell on this too much either as it will appear that you are not ready to move on.

2) Sex. Leave this conversation until you two are both ready to go for it.

3) Find out about her culture and be sensitive to this.

4) Yourself. Women like to be listened to - so use the rule “two ears, one mouth” guideline.

Ladies, men are pretty much fair game for all conversation. Try not to go on and on and on about one thing in particular. Get to the point of the matter. Here are a few topics though that you should scratch off your list for a first date:

1) Marriage. Big no-no unless you’ve been chatting online and finally get to meet. Eventually, if you are the marrying type, you’ll have to express it eventually since that’s what you’re after.

2) Money. How much does he make. Again, if you are interested in having a family, by all means this will have to be talked about, but not on your first date. Do discuss it however before you two become intimately involved if it’s one of your top priorities.

3) Your ex. Most guys don’t care to hear to much about this either. If you were abused, talk about it, but reassure him how you’ve dealt or dealing with it.

4) Children. Should you not have children, certainly you can chat about your love for your nieces or nephews, or that you’re a school teacher etc, but steer clear of “how many kids do you want?” If he doesn’t bring it up while you talk about how much you fancy your families family, then save this for when you two have shared other areas of interest first. . If you have children, be up front and let them know. More than likely this is a no-brainer, but - tell them

You know, I could include religion and politics since these topics can be grave diggers for relationships but, I differ from many perhaps. Why?

Religion can bring up a host of issues that may be difficult to deal with if you’re both not prepared. So I say, get it out in the open ahead of time to see if you two are willing to put in the effort to deal with family and peer pressures. Some parent’s, and I know of some personally, do find it difficult to relate to their child should they choose to marry outside of their own culture. Can you live with that?

Politics. Make sure you two can handle the bashing of whom you support. It can become very controversial if politics for you means right wing and they are on the left wing. Arguments are bound to surface unless you two can agree to disagree. Can you fight a fair “fight.”

These tips on what not to talk about on your first date should help avoid “scare tactics.” The point of the first date is to see if you two can carry on a conversation with ease and interest. How well you gel. Remember, as we age you will in time lose all your outer beauty. What’s left is what will keep your fires stoked regardless. There’s nothing worse than thinking that you will be with someone for a lifetime, and have nothing in common or that you’re always arguing.

Otherwise, talk about anything and everything else Talking about pets or animals and friends that you have are common favorites. The sky is the limit.

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