Staring or Ooogling Partner? Here’s What You Can Do

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Does your partner stare or oogle at others? I’m not talking about those that are being sneaky with pornography, that’s for another day.

Here’s the scenario:
You two have gone out on a dinner date. You look and feel awesome.
Later in the evening a very attractive person sits at the table beside you.
Your partner can’t help but stare at those long tanned legs and busting out breasts or a very sharply dressed to kill, charismatic man.

So how long is too long?
From what I’ve researched, after 3 seconds, it’s considered a stare.
It comes from asking others “How long does it take before you start to feel uncomfortable when someone is looking at you?”

So, what are your thoughts, what are your feelings and what can you do about it if your partner stares for 3 seconds or less?

You may start asking or commenting to yourself questions like:
1) hey, I’m over herrrrrrrre
2) do you mind, you are with me right now
3) what does she have that I don’t
4) he looks awesome and I don’t have his wallet size
5) man, can we leave
6) stop it

So, when you take inventory of what you’re thinking, it will tell you what you need to do to empower yourself.

Are you insecure? Are you obsessed and focused too much on the other person instead of actually being in love with that person? Is it a matter of trust?

Here’s what you can do:
1) Get outside interests. You’re too focused on the relationship at hand.
2) Don’t put so much emphasis on the other person to make you happy.
3) Set yourself some goals outside of the relationship and accomplish them. Make smaller attainable goals for now. Set larger ones, but for now, concentrate on the quick ones. This will start to boost your confidence in more ways than you can imagine.

If they are ooglers, meaning they stare longer than the average three second glance, what can you do?

1) Don’t be like the cartoon and slap the man LOL because it is what it is, a cartoon.
2) Tell them you think they are staring, it’s making you uncomfortable and can we talk about it later.
3) Engage in some interesting conversation to get past this moment for now.
4) Discuss it when you two are alone.

It is interesting to note how men love this past time, girl watching. They will never stop. It’s like asking a dog to be a cat. Ain’t gonna happen.

Try to remember that you too are attracted to other people. You too can’t help but admire other qualities in the opposite sex. It’s OK. What’s not OK is when you act on those thoughts. Here is where it boils down to trust.

Women, men are exposed and barraged with an outrageous amount of sexually arousing innuendos (intentional or not), pictures and what-not, so there will be times when they slip up. It’s not telling you that you are unattractive or that he is comparing you to the other woman, he’s just gone into automatic mode.

So just remember when you’re discussing with your partner about staring, that you understand where they’re coming from because you do. Tell them that it’s OK to look, just don’t stare. It simply is a rude gesture.

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