Who Did I Really Marry? Pay Attention To This Eye Opening Warning

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The scenario : You’re asking yourself “Who did I marry?”

You were dating, fell in love got married and now as time moves on things start to really bug you.

You start rolling your eyes. I’d come into my office in the middle of a segment on our local radio station about there being direct correlation to whether or not a couple will survive if one or both partners roll their eyes often.

If you do it often, take heed to this.
Things are starting to get on your nerves and there are underlying issues that need to be settled.

Quite frequently my husband has this brainy idea that I can read his mind at times. He’ll start telling me something when he’s half way through his thinking process, leaving out details that can really drive someone crazy - so what do I do? Roll my eyes.

Or maybe for you, your spouse spits out the window and of course that never happened when you were dating. What do you do - roll your eyes……….

Of course you might want to bring the issues into the lines of communication because if not, things will either of course not improve and just keep on the same old ways, same old aggravations or you two will start drifting farther apart.

It’s a natural tendency to want to distance oneself from situations that are annoying. Your the brain thinks “Hey, don’t go there….”

So the idea here is not to try to change the person. If you’ve ever tried changing your habits, and you know how difficult that may be, good luck trying to convince another person they need changing.

Rather you could try this instead:
Ask yourself before you speak “Is this all that important of an issue - meaning is it something that I absolutely can’t live with anymore?”

1) Many times you’ll find that the trivial matters that made your blood boil before won’t become so important. Or you’ll conclude that because they forgot to take out the garbage, you’re not going to nag about. You’ll just leave it for when he gets home at let them be concerned about it. Start thinking about this each time you start to roll your eyes.

2) So you’ve decided you can’t take the habit any longer. You ask yourself “Who did I marry?” Go and have a listen to my segment on how+to+write+a+love+letter" rel="tag">how to write a love letter. You don’t even have to have the person read it. You read it to them instead.

It will just put everything in a format that brings up the issue, is soft on words and lets them know what you’re trying to achieve or how you’d like to be satisfied. It will start the communication level on an even keel rather than you just blurting out “Can’t you stop doing that?” or “That just bugs the heck out me, why do you keep doing this when you know I can’t stand it?”

3) Stop hoping for them to change and just accept them with their quirks as they have to accept your quirks. Focus your attention on all their good qualities. Write them out if you have to and put them on the fridge (wouldn’t that make them feel awesome!) to remind you everyday of the reasons why you did marry that person. Your rolling eyes syndrome should then begin to be a distant memory and your relationship will become that much stronger.

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